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Value of Good Friends

Wednesday, July 20, 2005

Bismillah Ir-Rahmaan Ir-Raheem

In Islam, the great purpose of true friendship is the brotherhood / sisterhood for the sake of Allah. This love for the sake of Allah is the highest bond that may exist between one human being and another. (The Ideal Muslimah)

Love for the sake of Allah, and for no other reason, is very important, hard to find and very rewarding. As is stated in the Sahih Muslim hadith, "It is sufficient honor for those who love one another for the sake of Allah, men and women alike, to know that their almighty Rabb will take care of them on the Day of Judgement and will say: "Where are those who loved one another for My glory? Today I will shade them in My shade on the Day when there is no shade but Mine."

These days, it is so easy to find friends to chat with about the worldly things (what's on sale, what this person wore to an event, and pronouncements of always trying to keep up with the Jones's to name a few)- to spend time eating and chatting and often talking about the faults of others. It is nice to be social, but at what price?

Sometimes we really overlook how such 'seemingly' small matters can affect our iman. Why do we have the friends we have? What purpose causes us to strive for that friendship? We need to make sure our intentions are pure and that we truly are not harming ourselves through the friends that we have chosen.

As it states in the Qur'an in Surat Al-Kahf, "And keep thy soul content with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, seeking His Face; and let not thine eyes pass beyond them, seeking the pomp and glitter of this Life; nor obey any whose heart We have permitted to neglect the remembrance of Us, one who follows his own desires, whose case has gone beyond all bounds."

It is rare to find, however, those whose presence remind you of Allah - who want to spend their time speaking about Islam and inspiring one another to goodness. That doesn't mean that these people don't have lives and concerns, but when all is said and done, the topic of Islam has never left the discussion.

The importance of such friends is emphasized in the following hadith, "The example of a good and bad companion is that of a perfume seller and a blacksmith. The perfume seller either gives you the perfume or tries to sell it to you, or you will get a good smell from him; but in the blacksmith's workshop you will either burn your clothes, or they'll be blackened by soot."

Good friends truly are hard to find but is well worth all the effort. Not only do they willingly share the laughter and smiles of good times, but they are there to remind you of Allah when times are low. They give advice, even when its not easy, and they look past our faults and try to be a good example for what we should be striving for. They speak to you in words of kindness - and assist you in finding yourself and your purpose in case you get lost along the way. Their lives are a testament that Islam is still alive and well in this day and age and that continuing to strive in this deen is not only possible, it is well worth every hardship and obstacle that may come your way.

Through life's ups and downs, I have made my share of mitakes, but Alhumdulilah - all that we go through is meant to teach us and to help us grow as Muslims. I have truly been blessed with wonderful friends that have been an inspiration to me and have helped me strive to reach further than the eye can see - I still have such a long way to go! I pray to Allah that all of us find friends like these - because it truly is a blessing.

One last note, to keep you thinking - not only is it important to find friends such as these and to spend time with them when we have the opportunity, we must also strive to be such friends to others - to be an inspiration - to make Islam alive within our hearts and to share it with others.

Now, sit back and reflect - what kind of friends do we have, why are we friends, and yes, what good comes out of that friendship? If you don't like the answers, perhaps it is time for you to improve your position.

And then reflect - what kind of friend am I? What good do I bring to those who are friends with me? How can I improve?

It reminds me of the personal dua I used to say since I first became Muslim:


"O Allah, please bring people into my life,

that I may be a good example to

and bring people into my life

that may be an good example to me."


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